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8 Toxic Behaviors and What to do About Them

January 10th, 2017 Posted by Behavior 0 thoughts on “8 Toxic Behaviors and What to do About Them”
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Judgmental Jim, Disrespectful Danny and the whole gang of 8 toxic behaviors in the workplace can wreak havoc on a business or organization.

Last week on the Business is ART podcast at the TrueChat Network, my guest was Camishe Nunley of Healing Your Hidden Hurts (HYHH). HYHH specializes in counseling for individuals, couples & families with anxiety and depression but Camishe also works with businesses and organizations to provide training and education on a number of topics related to behavior and mental health at work.

8 Toxic Behaviors

On the podcast, which you can listen to in its entirety by clicking here, Camishe identified 8 toxic behaviors, being careful to make a distinction that it is the behavior at issue, as opposed to the personality, because at any given time we all can display any of the behaviors for any number of reasons.

The 8 toxic behaviors include:

  • Manipulative Mary, who builds her own belief system designed to get you to do things for her (and him)
  • Narcissistic Nancy, who has an overblown sense of self-importance and thinks the world revolves around her (or him)
  • Debbie Downer, who cannot appreciate anything
  • Judgmental Jim, who finds something wrong in everything
  • Dream Killing Keith, who just loves to tell you what you can’t do
  • Insincere Elise, who is fake and seems incapable of an authentic response to anything
  • Disrespectful Danny, who is a bully prone to doing whatever he (or she) wants at any, even inappropriate, times
  • Never Enough Nellie, who you just can’t make happy no matter what you do

You just thought of several people you know, didn’t you?

Be honest. As you read that list you were thinking of people you know that fit in to each category. Perhaps some fit in to multiple categories. Did you associate yourself with any of them?

The behaviors aren’t all that difficult to spot, particularly in the workplace where realistic views may be less blocked by personal feelings/relationships. But then what?

Now what are you gonna do about it?

What can you do once you have spotted the behavior? Camishe suggests as a first step to privately discuss it in non-threatening terms with the person displaying the toxic behavior. Put them at ease and be non-judgmental then reflect back on how the behavior makes you feel because at the end of it, you really want 2 things: to empathize/understand and for it to stop.

If you are a supervisor with an employee displaying toxic behaviors, take a similar approach but do so in more of a coaching role. Help the individual understand how to navigate through things and communicate frequently on their progress. Provide follow-up actions and corrective feedback in simple terms.

What can you control?

Finally, keep this in mind. You may not be able to change or influence someone else’s behavior, but you can control how you respond (or don’t respond) to it. The last thing you want to do is give that person power over you by allowing their toxic behavior to affect yours.

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Humor in the Workplace

January 18th, 2016 Posted by Behavior, Business is ART, Engagement, Inspiration, Leadership, Relationships 0 thoughts on “Humor in the Workplace”
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Levity is a Funny Thing

This week marks the anniversary of the Coen’s brothers movie Blood Simple. Admittedly, I’ve never seen the movie, but the Coen’s are among my favorite movie makers and that movie put them on the map.

Raising Arizona and O Brother, Where Art Thou are among my favorite all time films. I’m looking forward to checking out Hail, Caesar but will continue to avoid The Big Lebowski on some kind of weird principle that has also kept me from watching Titanic. I guess it just feels like jumping on the bandwagon when I’d rather be in the band.

Suffice it to say, though, that I like humor and I like to laugh. At work, at home, wherever I am. Humor is very welcome in my world.

Why You Gotta Be Like That?

Have you ever worked for someone who just had no sense of humor? I once worked for someone who, literally, I only heard laugh in mocking fashion at someone as she was about to tell the poor soul (often me) how stupid he or she had been. She even once told a guy that worked for me to stop smiling in a meeting because there was nothing to smile about.

True story. Miserable experience.

Is it Appropriate?

I have always felt humor in the workplace is a valuable tool. It creates a culture in which employees feel more engaged because, for one, they are more at ease and not constantly walking on egg shells. Study after study has shown that appropriate humor in the workplace is good for everything from employee health to profit. But the trick is that darned word “appropriate.”

How do you know what is appropriate and what is not? The answer can change depending on a multitude of variables including company size, line of business and the employees themselves. A good rule of thumb is to keep your humor G or PG-13 rated at worst. If it is sexist, racist, religious or any other “ist” or “ous”, think twice before saying it.

There are plenty of funny things to say and observe at work without going to humor destinations better suited for the bar or shared in private.

The Weekly See 7 – January 18, 2016 Edition.

Humor at work is the subject of the January 18, 2016 edition of my newsletter, The Weekly See 7. Enjoy…and lighten up!

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